Most men who’ve been through a heart attack know what they should be doing. But knowing something and actually doing it — when life, finances, and responsibility are pulling in the opposite direction — is a completely different thing. This week that gap caught me out.
After a heart attack, everyone tells you what to do with your body. But nobody really tells you what to do with who you were before. This is about the quiet shift in identity that comes after surviving something — wanting the old you back, learning to let him go, and figuring out who you’re becoming next.
It took me 11 years to talk about this.
After a heart attack, it’s not just the physical recovery you carry — it’s everything that comes after it. The fear, the silence, and the things you don’t know how to say. This is why I’m finally showing up and speaking about it face to face.